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What You See!
Practical and down-to-earth, Daniel's interpersonal manner demonstrates that he is on the ball. He talks straight and honestly about his likes and dislikes. He takes adaptability to new heights, being able to fit in with both intellectuals and blue collar folks. And he rarely puts on airs or considers himself to be anything more than he is.
What You Don't See!
Is Daniel really as normal and stable as he appears in public? Yes! Even more than most could imagine. Unfortunately, however, this normalcy leaves him with almost no special needs or characteristics to drive him forward, and he tends to depend on external circumstances to get him stirred into action. If Daniel worries about anything, it is that he won't fit in. His worst scenario would be to be ostracized, left out or rejected by his peers. He fears loneliness and rejection, but since he is neither, his fears are fleeting.
Bubbling Under the Surface!
Daniel despises conflicts with others. He does not like to be confronted with anger, either his own or someone else's. He hates to rock the boat and seeks to end disagreements before they escalate. If this tactic fails, then he withdraws from the scene.
Special Attractions
Daniel loves to receive encouragement from others. A little praise goes along way in getting him motivated and keeping his energy level high. This positive regard helps him to feel reassured about his acceptance within any group.
What Dr. Freud Has to Say About Daniel
One of Daniel's favorite defense mechanisms is altruism. Here he gains satisfaction of his needs by providing constructive services to others, and he experiences their pleasure and satisfaction indirectly, or vicariously.
Habits and Addictions
If you watch closely, you will notice that Daniel has the habit of listening to everyone else before expressing any opinions or thoughts. He is very careful about what he says because he knows that many people become upset about opinions that do not agree with their own. The last thing he wants is an argument or a fight. He enjoys being included, spoken of as a "regular" person and just going along with the habits of his crowd. If you really want to get Daniel's goat, call him an oddball.
Career Leanings
Daniel is a happy employee just waiting to happen. Put him in a positive environment, where the job is spelled out clearly, along with benefits and he will be productive and cooperative. Daniel is happiest performing tasks that require a moderate amount of drive to complete. As an employee, he'll do exactly what the union or the company wants him to do. As long as he is not required to work more than 8 hours a day, gets at least 2 weeks vacation, and has good health benefits, he will be satisfied. If he ever does appear to be unhappy, it is probably because there is something seriously wrong in the work environment. Typical jobs for this type of person include civil service worker, high school teacher, laborer and secretary.
Hidden Desires
The important thing to remember about Daniel is that sex is just another aspect of life to him, like eating, drinking, sleeping; it's not an overriding obsession. He is not particularly anxious to explore new sexual territories or partners. He is a fairly easy lover to please and satisfy, and maintains a straightforward attitude when it comes to sexual fantasies. You're not likely to discover any strange contraptions, lingerie or literature under his bed. In fact, his love relationships tend to be based on companionship rather than sex.
How to Make Friends with Daniel
Whether or not you make friends with Daniel will be determined largely by proximity. Once you get yourself into the same group, neighborhood or job as he is, most of the battle will be over. Daniel is a good-natured individual who is as easy to be around as he is to make friends with. He likes people and is bound to like you if you make any effort. Remember, however, that he won't wander far from this natural group. So unless you make the effort and go to him, it is unlikely that you will become friends. If he perceives you as a rebel or opposed to the views of those around him, he will not be able to accept you as a friend.
How to Influence Daniel
One of the worst situations Daniel can imagine is to be left out or ostracized by his friends, family or co-workers. Therefore, when attempting to persuade or influence him, consider using subtle pressure. Play on his need to be accepted by implying that failure to take your position could cause him to be excluded from an important group. Suggest that doing as you propose will lead to love and admiration from others around him.
